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Is There a Trend for Dating Older Partners?

There is a saying that age doesn’t matter. Regardless of the age, as long as the two people agree to be together, no matter the terms, there is nothing wrong with that. However, if it talks about dating older men and women for a luxurious life, there might be different reactions. There is a new and controversial trend now.

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The trend involves the online dating space wherein youngsters willingly sign up as sugar babies to date sugar mommies and daddies in return for arrangements like gifts and cash. Not all Singaporean know about the concept of sugar daddies and mommies. Sugar daddy is a word used to describe older men (or in the case of sugar mommy, older women) who proposes financial and other support to a younger acquaintance (which is called sugar baby) in exchange for favours.

Looking for a sugar baby is established these days. Sugar daddies and mommies can now can easily look for a companion because of websites like Seeking Arrangement. Seeking Arrangement brags of its more than 5 million members in more than 100 territories. What does this tell us? This trade is viral and no one can stop it, even hackers.

The site allows people to join and upload their profiles. The profiles features photos of men (ages 31 to 60 years old) posing in front of their mansions or luxury cars. Older women also poses wearing their bikinis on their pool. The website enticed millions of clients because it claims to provide relationships based on the customer’s term.

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What is this “customer’s term”? Well, not all the time it includes sexual favours. Sugar babies are given the luxury to enjoy life with trips, allowances, apartment and fine dinners. In return, sugar daddies or mommies ask sugar babies to accompany them all the time. In the part of the sugar daddies and mommies, they are just seeking a companion so there is nothing wrong with that.

If we are going to ask sugar babies, they will also think the same way. When they accompany their “daddies” and “mommies”, they treat it as a job. If their way of repaying the companion is through spoiling, then it is helping both sides.

We heard about Ashley Madison where it hosts and encourages adulterous acts saying that “life is short, have an affair”. Not all Singaporeans are happy about the website but still it continues to thrive because there are still clients willing to do such acts. This is the same with sugar babies and daddies/mommies. We’ll see if this trend continues.

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4 Relationships That You May Not Realize Are Toxic...

People in your life who suck the life out of you with constant gossips, complaints, selfishness, and negativity are damaging. While some of them you can obviously spot, others are discreet, which you may not realize right away how they are intoxicating your life.

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How do you deal with these people? Your first line of defence would be to identify them first. Here are the kinds of relationships that are toxic to your life.

1.       The partner whose world revolves only around you.

This person believes that you are the reason of his existence. While he only wants your happiness, he would also overly involve himself to share with you your pain. Sure, it’s flattering at first, but the pressure builds quickly. It is a fast-track to co-dependency, which can suck you dry eventually.

2.       The friend you constantly compare yourself to.

There’s nothing wrong with admiring your friends, but constantly comparing yourself with them doesn’t help either. If you see your friendship more of a competition rather than a partnership, maybe it’s time to check your self-confidence. What drives this feeling? Do you feel impotent? If so, do something about this and don’t waste the relationship you have with a good friend.

3.       The person in your life who always claim “just being realistic.”

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A family member or a friend, this person always claim to have the best intentions at heart and that they care about you so they don’t want to see you get hurt or struggle. What this person may not know is that a little struggle or disappointment is important to grow. One will never get anywhere without taking a few risks.

4.       The kind of relationship you have with yourself.

How any times have you put yourself down compared to the times you build yourself up? And what have you done to ensure that your life is free from the toxicity of negativities around you? Examine how much you have given importance to your dreams and happiness to see whether the relationship you have with yourself is worth cherishing or worth rehabilitating.

You are the only person who can identify these people in your lives. Once you have identified who these people are and what kind of relationship you have with them, seek for ways on how you can deal with them. There’s no need to terminate altogether your relationship with them. Modification of interaction with these people and a healthy mentality on how to accept their manner of treatment towards you will suffice to keep your life positive and balance.

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